Day 181: "Trust your own instinct. Your mistakes might as well be your own, instead of someone else's."

Thursday, June 30, 2011

People can give you advice on what you should do, and what they think is right for you but you are the only person that should be controlling your own life.

Advice is nice, but sometimes it’s up to you and your own intuition to decide whether something is right for you.

Intuition lives inside of all of us. It’s that gut feeling, that instinct and it usually turns out to be right. How many times do you say to yourself “Ugh! I knew that was going to happen!” Well…that was you ignoring your intuition when you were making a decision and in the end it bit you in the butt.

To every logical question there's usually an answer of YES or a NO… I DO or I DON’T…I CAN or I CAN’T…and so on. When answers to questions are not obvious that’s when you should tap into your subconscious mind and listen to your intuition.

We are not robots…we don’t always have all the facts and answers to all our problems and sometimes logic will not give you the right answer. Our heart, subconscious mind, instinct and intuition can lead us to the right answers if we pay enough attention to them.

And hey, even some of world’s greatest discoveries were based on scientist’s intuition…tells ya something doesn’t it?

So, listen to your heart, trust your intuition and instinct because it’s usually spot on! 

Day 180: This is NOT my hump day. It's my happy day.

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

My hump day came early. 

Yesterday I had a roller coaster of a day, I shed some tears in the office (kind of awkward and embarrassing when your boss walks up to you and asks for a piece of gum and you burst into tears. Bad timing boss, I was mid text argument with someone. Looking back now, it's actually kind of hilarious), I fought with my heart, didn't get enough sleep, I had this sharp tingling pain in my right butt cheek and lower back from working out twice in one day (I thought I could handle 2-a-days...clearly my body is telling me I can't!) and with that being said, today will not be my hump day it will be my happy day

& I hope today is a happy one for you. 

Day 179: “The worst feeling in the world is knowing you've been used and lied to.”

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Don’t you just hate the feeling that you are being used? I had a long conversation with someone about the “I think I'm being used” topic and it’s very touchy for lots of people.

Let’s say you are sailing on a boat…saiiillling on the journey of life everything is wonderful…except there is that one person that comes into your life, takes over, and becomes the Capitan of your boat. It could be your boyfriend/girlfriend, it could be your co-worker/ boss, it could be your friend, or it could even be a family member…whoever it is… you then realize you are being taken for a merry ride instead of controlling your boat!

There are dominant people and submissive people. The dominant people can easily walk all over the submissive without feeling guilty. The dominant people are the ones who take over your boat and do whatever they want with your life without thinking how it will affect you. Those people don’t care what you think because they will always do whatever they want, and they will do whatever they need to to get what they want in life even if it consists of using you over and over again.

If you know someone is doing that to you, don’t deny it.

Don’t sell yourself short and let people walk all over you. Everyone deserves to be treated with equal respect; there is no one in the world that should be superior to you. 

Don’t give too much to those who give you little because it makes you weaker and people lose respect for you. In order to preserve your self-respect it’s better to upset the people by doing something you know is right, rather than temporarily pleasing them by doing something you know is wrong. 

You have your own boat. Guide it yourself. Don't let anyone steer you in the wrong direction because in the end it will be your own fault for letting it happen. 

“It is far better to be alone, than to be in bad company.” 

Day 178: This is your life.

Monday, June 27, 2011

My rad friend Tim posted this picture yesterday and I couldn't help but fall in love with it! 

If you can't read the little poster here's what it says: 

This is your life. Do what you love, and do it often. If you don’t like something, change it. If you don’t like your job, quit. If you don’t have enough time, stop watching TV. If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; they will be waiting for you when you start doing things you love. Stop over analyzing, life is simple. All emotions are beautiful. When you eat, appreciate every last bite. Open your mind, arms, and heart to new things and people, we are united in our differences. Ask the next person you see what their passion is, and share your inspiring dream with them. Travel often; getting lost will help you find yourself. Some opportunities only come once; seize them. Life is about the people you meet and the things you create with them, so go out and start creating. Live your dream, and share your passion. Life is short.

Check out Tim's blog! 
He is a super funny, amazingly talented and awesome person:

Have an AWESOME week! 

Day 177: Nick Vujicic: One of the most inspiring men in the world.

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Nick Vujicic

A few months back my friend Brittany's dad told Brittany and I that we MUST go to Christ Church of the Valley  to see Nick Vujicic speak. 

We both did't know who he was, but Brit and I rolled out of bed on a Sunday and showed up to the church. 

There were hundreds of people waiting in front of the door! 

When the doors opened we stormed to the front of the Church and snagged some great seats. 

We were anxiously waiting for Nick Vujicic to come out...and when he did there was cheers, screaming, whistling, clapping...and finally I found out why...

(pause music at the bottom of this page) 

I think about Vujicic all the time!

 Sometimes I think I have it bad, and you might think you have it bad, but no, no you don't. 

Life is good. Happy Sunday! 

Day 176: Going shopping today?...Little advice from Warren Buffett ;)

Saturday, June 25, 2011

"Only buy something that you'd be perfectly happy to hold if the market shut down for 10 years." 
~Warren Buffett

Warren Buffett is one of the most successful investors in the world! 

Day 175: "Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for kindness."

Friday, June 24, 2011

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. -Leo Buscaglia

Yesterday I was driving to meet up with a girlfriend for lunch in Downtown Phoenix.

I was supposed to exit on 7th Street but NO one would let me get over into the exit lane! I tried merging in the last second but the car next to me was not having it, so I missed my exit.  I was annoyed and angry… the next exit wasn’t until 16th Street.  

I was driving up the 16th Street exit ramp and I saw this homeless man standing on the side of the intersection. He was wearing ragged jeans, a shredded up dirty white t-shirt, his face was sunburned and he was sweating profusely (For those of you who don’t live in Arizona it was around 108 degrees Fahrenheit yesterday). He was not holding a sign saying he needs money, instead this fella was rubbing his belly and putting his hands together (in prayer position) asking 'please feed me I am hungry'.

My heart sank.

I was three cars behind a stop light trying to think of something I had in my car that would fulfill at least some of his needs. Just when I thought I was out of luck, I remembered I had shoved a water bottle in my purse before leaving the house.

The light turned green and as all the other cars sped off, I inched up my car to him with my window rolled down and handed him my cold water bottle. The man looked at me with kindest eyes and said, “God bless you”, I smiled at him and said, “God bless you too, sir” and drove away.

I’ve been thinking about the poor fell all day. If it wasn’t for me missing my 7th street exit I would have never been able to quench his thirst for at least a few minutes. I really wish I could have done more but I simply had nothing else to give…

It’s hot outside people. If you have anything to offer to these people on the streets just do it. After all they are human too, they get thirsty, they get tired, they get cold, they get sunburned, they get lonely…and if you are skeptical about why they ended up on the street don’t give them money, give them something they will eat, drink or wear.

Don’t sit there and judge the homeless, have faith in them and be grateful that you are not in their shoes.

Everybody can be great...because anybody can serve. You don't have to have a college degree to serve. You don't have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love. -Martin Luther King, Jr.

All you have shall someday be given; 
Therefore give now, that the season of giving
 may be yours and not your inheritors.
-Kahlil Gibran

That best portion of a good man's life; his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love.  -William Wordsworth
No act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted. -Aesop

I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something I can do. -Edward Everett Hale

Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up.   -The Reverend Jesse Jackson

You cannot do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late.- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Day 174: Wisdom will start to build as soon as you accept responsibility for you past and as soon as you accept responsibility for your own problems.

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Never let your history control your destiny. There is no one to blame for your current situation, not your genetics, not your education, your your parents, not your spouse, not your co-workers, not your boss, not your siblings—you get the point. If you keep blaming others for where you are in your life it will negatively affect your future. If you continue to blame others for your lack of success you will be caught in a sticky web of the past.

Look your past in the face and accept responsibility for it.  You are responsible for your success, no one shoved you into the place you are right now. You are mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and financially where you are today—because of the decisions you have made in your past, and your present.  Every decision you make is governed by your own thinking, you have control over your own mind therefore you cannot blame anyone else for your actions.  You are where you are today because of the way you THINK. You can change everything in your life by changing the way you THINK.

Never THINK destructive thoughts, only CONSTRUCTIVE. Don’t think about the future too much, the future is ever changing. Enjoy the journey that gets you to the future, for that journey is where you become a wiser individual if you pay enough attention.

Look for people who are striving to make the world a better place, these are the people that will help bring about positive changes in your life.

Make decisions for yourself and never let anyone else take over your life. Remember that God doesn’t give you the ability to make the right decision all the time but he did give you the ability to make a decision about something then make it right! Stand behind those decisions and don’t let the rise and fall of your journey discourage you.

Everyone falls down once in a while and the main question we scream is “why me?” well guess what that’s a destructive thought…next time ask yourself “why not me?” Make your challenges a constructive part in gaining wisdom. If you encounter challenges you are lucky because they are an opportunity to learn!

I could keep writing buttttt I will save the rest of my thoughts for another post...

It’s almost Friday!!! Eeek!!!

Happy  Thurrrrsday! 

Day 173: My hump day...started with a bump

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

My hump day so far: I double checked to see if my alarm clock was set last night and this morning my alarm clock FAILED to go off and I missed an important appointment.

On the bright side maybe my alarm clock saved me from getting into a car accident??? Even though I am very upset with my alarm clock right now I keep telling myself the most cliche thing to say "Everything happens for a reason". 

Happy Hump Day! 

Day 172: "Some people come into our lives and quicky go, while others stay awhile, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same."

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

I was listening to this song when I wrote today's blog...seems appropriate :) 

From the day I was born I’ve had the pleasure of meeting thousands of people. Every single person has brought something to the table and taught me a lesson in one way or another.  A majority of those people don’t even know the impact they had on my life because we no longer talk to each other or we chose different paths.

Yesterday, I met one of the most amazing men in this world. There was something about him that made me feel at peace with myself for once. Within minutes he broke down my barriers and with crocodile tears I poured out my heart and soul to him…not all of it, but all major stepping stones and traumatic moments in my life were spilled out to him…he heard it all. I cried and cried and in the process of crying my legs started to quiver. And that’s when it hit me; I had been keeping all my emotions locked up like a vault inside my heart because I thought I was protecting myself.

Believe it or not, emotions get trapped in our cells and can physically stop our bodies from moving the way they are supposed to.  It’s not healthy to keep your feelings to yourself and when you want to cry, you need to cry, and when you want to scream you need to scream. For the past 3 years I have been stiff (literally stiff…as in sometimes I can’t even bend my knees)…full of worries…I suppressed my feelings about everything and covered them up with a smile on my face because that’s what I thought I was supposed to do.

 “Stay Strong” those words were told to me over and over and over again to the point where I never complained about anything in my life because I thought it was so wrong to complain.

We can cover up our problems with a smile…but that smile is like a prescription drug just masking the problems in our lives. The healthiest way out of a problem is discovering the core of what went wrong in the first place. This is where you need to be vulnerable.

It’s okay to be vulnerable, and it’s okay to find someone to help you get through a phase if you feel lost. So many of us are lost in life and we won’t admit it because we are too afraid to let ourselves be vulnerable in front of others.  

I learned a lot about myself yesterday. I hold on to the things in my life like a sponge, and it’s causing me to be sick and weak. I finally met the right person that will help me get better and show me how to let go of every tragic moment I have held on to for the past 3 years.

I have retraced every step in my passed to figure out why I am the way I am today. I finally realize why every event leading up to today has happened, and the timing of these events couldn't be more perfect.  I could write down everything that I used to think was wrong and turn it into a right. It’s a really magical feeling...I finally had my "Ah-Ha" moment! 

I looked deeper into the most PAINFUL moments of my life where I thought I would rather be dead then have to face them again and I noticed that it’s the people I've known for the shortest amount of time who have taught me the most valuable life lessons. And they are no longer the bad guys; they are actually blessings in disguise. Whether it was the man who got me in the accident, or the guys that never treated me like a respectable woman deserves THEY are the people who taught me how to make myself a better person who deserves nothing but the best in this world. When you want to better yourself you can change the world and influence and inspire others to be amazing, you can teach them never to settle with something they don't deserve. Everyone deserves happiness and whatever their heart desires...if you settle for less there is no one to blame but yourself.  

I don’t know if subconsciously we seek "bad guys" to come into our lives, or if it is fate leading us to them but I am glad I have found each and every one of them.

I cherish every single person that I meet and I will continue to cherish them even if they escape out of my life, for they have all taught me valuable lessons along on the way. Even if I haven’t realized what those lessons are yet.

Day 171: Climbing the Corporate Ladder

Monday, June 20, 2011

My wonderful mom sent this to me today & I just had to share!

Our attitude is the #1 contributor to our professional success. 

A very common question employees have is how to move up within an organization and how to be given greater responsibility.  For starters, I believe you get out of your career what you put into it, and when you enjoy what you do and want to do more, it shows.  Here are six keys to success I believe all effective leaders share.

1. Sell yourself: Tell your supervisor your career interests and ask them for constant feedback on your efforts and results.

2. Demonstrate a high degree of initiative: Showing others a strong interest in seeing our company succeed by volunteering to lead or join committees or work groups can often catch the attention of others and send a clear message that you have ambition and the right motivation.

3. Be involved, don’t just show up: Arrive at meetings on time, greet other attendees, take notes, ask questions, and help the group reach quality decisions and consensus.

4. Be observant: Watch what other high achievers do because success leaves clues, and those clues can help you.

5. Keep learning: Read books, trade journals, learn new concepts and you will find yourself using that new insight to get that extra edge.

6. Help others succeed: There is a reason why successful leaders tend to have the largest number of people advance within the organization – it’s a reputation that says you know how to lead and develop others, including yourself!

In summary, climbing the corporate ladder of success takes work!  It’s not enough to have positive results, and it’s not enough to just do your job well.  Often it’s getting results and how well you demonstrate a desire to do more with a positive healthy attitude that others can sense that can make the difference.

Day 170: Happy Father's Day! Daddy I love you!!!

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Happy Father’s Day to all the amazing Dad’s out there, ESPECIALLY MINE!!!

Even when my dad doesn’t think I'm listening to him…I soak up every word, and his words are always written on my heart.

Without my dad I wouldn’t be the woman I am today, he helped me build a strong foundation, he helped me shape my values and mold my morals and for that I will forever be his grateful princess.

My dad is awesome.
I love him because he never dwells on the dark side of life and he always seeks for the good in people. He thrives on humor and makes me laugh until I cry! He cares about our family more than anything.

My daddy is my hero.
He pushes me to the limit and teaches me things I could have never learned on my own. He is the hardest working man I know, and he knows how to fix EVERYTHING! He has helped me with LISTS of problems and his wisdom and knowledge has shown me the way!

My daddy says everything with love.
He makes me feel protected. When I need him most he is always there.

My dad is my super hero!
 He will forever have a place of honor deep within my heart.

I am so proud to have the best Daddy in the world.

I love you so much dad and one day I hope to meet a man who just as amazing as you are!!!

Happy Father’s Day!!! 

Day 169: Just a Quickie

Saturday, June 18, 2011

I'm in a funk so... I'm turning this over to one of my amazing besties...Today’s inspiration is brought to you by Emilee Engelbretson, she lifts my spirits on the daily:

One day at a time- this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering!- Unknown

Happy Saturday!

Day 168: Happy Friday!

Friday, June 17, 2011

If it's not fun, you're not doing it right. -Bob Basso

The weekend is here! 

Make the time to do things that you love and be around the ones you cherish! 

This weekend is yours! Take the authority to choose what you want to do and do it well! 

Have fun and laugh as much as you can! Relax and be goofy! 

Take the authority to control your own decisions because no one else can do it for you... Be safe!

Happy Friday & don’t forget to do something amazing for your Dad this weekend, he deserves it! 
Dance as though no one is watching you; love as though you have never been hurt before, sing as though no one can hear you, live as though heaven is on earth. -Alfred Souza

Day 167: Happy 27th Wedding Anniversary Mom & Dad! A real life fairy tale :)

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Our wedding was many years ago.  The celebration continues to this day.  ~Gene Perret

Happy Anniversary Mom & Dad!!!!

One of my favorite love stories…(A very short version I left out lots of goods)

Once upon a time…


There was a beautiful Polish girl named Basia (Pronounced Baah-sha). She was partying in Poland when she looked across the crowded room and saw a handsome man named Zdzisław (Pronounced z-gee-suave). They couldn’t get their eyes off each other. He approached her introduced himself. They hit it off, but suddenly Zdzisław had to leave…his mother wasn’t feeling well and he had to head back home and take care of her (he lived in a small town far away from her).


Back then there were no cell phones…or e-mail…so Basia thought she would never see him again. There was nothing they could do about it.


A couple months later, Basia went out again and what do you know…she happened to reunite with ZDISLAW! This time he did not want to leave her and she did not want to leave him. They started to date, and eventually they became a couple.


Oh there was good times and bad times and in the midst of it all…they fell in love.


Zdzisław was ready for a new life, he wanted to get out of Poland and live in a country where he could go far in life…(Poland had limited possibilities for men...either they had to enroll in the army or they were forced to do something else that they most likely did not want to).


So, he had devastating news for Basia. He was ready to move to Australia for a better life.


There were tears and tissues at the airport but Zdzisław had to get on that plane…it was for the best. He left her. 

The End…just kidding…


A couple months went by and Basia saved all her pennies and bought a plane ticket to Australia. When she arrived in Australia Zdzisław was no where to be found! 

Turns out Zdzisław got a name change because no Australian could pronounce his name. He changed it to (drum roll please)... Michael!


Basia and Michael soaked up every second they had together. Until Basia’s visa was about to expire. Either she had to go back to Poland and never see him again because it was too expensive to travel, or they had to get married.

They couldn't bare the thought of separating again. 


Michael spent a long time putting together his thoughts and he wrote a letter to Basia’s father. Michael could not live without this wonderful woman so he asked her father for his blessing so he could marry the woman of his dreams. 


The letter was sent via air mail… and finally they got a response…Michael had permission to marry Basia!

He proposed to her with the smallest diamond ring, they were broke, but it didn’t matter they loved each other with all their heart. Nothing could ever come between them.


The wedding day finally came, it was bittersweet. They were happy to get married but some of the most important people in their lives were missing. No one could afford a trip to Australia for a wedding… regardless, there were still a handful of guests (some that they barley knew or didn't even know) but it didn't matter to them. 

All that mattered that day was the happiness and love of the bride and groom.


After the small wedding, Basia and Michael went on to start a new life officially together, getting their first apartment…they barley had any money (remember they started their lives together with one suitcase each). And from that day they slowly started to build their lives together.


They were the hardest workers you would ever meet. Working multiple jobs, living pay check to pay check…the only thing that kept them going was love. They made it work!


After months and years of hard work it started to pay off. They bought a block of land and built a family home…and Basia got pregnant with their first baby!


By the time the home was done (Michael and Basia had built every single thing themselves) it was time for the baby to be born....


The first baby was born, they blinked a few times and Basia got pregnant with another baby!


Now they had their own perfect family…they upgraded to a beautiful home a few years later and life was wonderful.


When the youngest child turned 10 years old Michael got a job offer in America…Arizona to be exact.

So once again they packed up everything they had and moved to America… This time there was lots and lots and lots of suit cases. 


There were ups and downs, conflicts, chaos, drama… life threw a bunch of curve balls at them but they fought through it together...

Today 27 years later Michael and Basia are still happily living ever after.

True love stories never have endings.  ~Richard Bach

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.  ~Mignon McLaughlin

What’s their secret to a long marriage you might ask?


A sense of humor & the ability to compromise.


I love you mom and dad, Happy Anniversary!!!

A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity.  The order varies for any given year.  ~Paul Sweeney

Love is a symbol of eternity.  It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end.  ~Author Unknown

Love one another and you will be happy.  It's as simple and as difficult as that.  ~Michael Leunig

An anniversary is a time to celebrate the joys of today, the memories of yesterday, and the hopes of tomorrow.  ~Author Unknown

The highest happiness on earth is marriage.  ~William Lyon Phelps
A happy marriage is a long conversation that always seems too short.  ~Andre Maurois