Day 90: "If you don't fail now and again, it's a sign you're playing it safe.”

Thursday, March 31, 2011

When you play it too safe, you're taking the biggest risk of your life. Time is the only wealth we're given.-Barbara Sher 

Many people like to play it safe…

Playing safe doesn’t necessarily mean you are trying to meet other people’s expectations…it might just mean you don’t want to take risks because you don’t want to put yourself in jeopardy, your family in jeopardy…or…basically your whole life in jeopardy.

I was reading a study…researchers asked old people what they regretted most during their lifetime and what would they do differently if they could turn back time. The majority of the elderly answered-“I wish I would have taken more risks.”

After all these years, I am still involved in the process of self-discovery. It's better to explore life and make mistakes than to play it safe. Mistakes are part of the dues one pays for a full life. -Sophia Loren

Don’t let playing it safe turn you away from great opportunity.

Lots of people end up living a mediocre life and they are happy with that…but at the same time, you don’t want to look back at your life in 30 years and say “I wish I would have taken more risks.”

Don’t settle for mediocre. Don’t have regrets like those old guys…

You live one life…live it to your fullest potential!

Risk is essential. There is not growth of inspiration in staying within what is safe and comfortable. Once you find out what you do best, why not try something else? -Alex Noble

Day 89: "Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot."

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

The test of good manners is to be patient with bad ones.  ~Gabirol


Polite people are considerate and appreciative and lovely to be around.

To be polite is to be gentle…don’t force things on others…don’t pressure people.

Be nice and treat everyone the same way…even if you don’t like them.

Having enemies is harder then treating everyone the same. Be nice to everyone because you never know where you might run into them again or if you might need them to help you with something in the future.

Don’t be a conversation hog. Let others talk…before they get bored and irritated with your “all about me” stories.

Be honest. Have proper etiquette for the given situation.  Be graceful and show elegance!

Being polite means being responsible, show up on time, say nice things about everyone and if you don’t have anything nice to say- don’t say anything at all!

Being rude, arrogant and mean is over rated and waste of energy. If someone really bothers you kill them with kindness…it’s much easier.

Day 88: "It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed."

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal. -- Albert Pike

There are millions of people who turn out to be super successful in this world.

Many take their success, flaunt it, show superior attitude, and forget about the “little” people.

The public eye see’s what a successful person achieves and will recognize what type of successful person they have become…

Being successful is not just about you and how you made it happen for yourself…the biggest part is what you can make happen for others. 

Successful people become blessings to others… for example, Oprah…she is successful, she started her OWN network and she has been helping others for over 25 years. She shares her wealth, and provides for those who are less fortunate.

People become winners for a reason, they are successful so they can help people around them that are trying to become successful… people who start companies provide jobs for others to help them achieve something in life…everyone can grow from the entry-level positions they just have to do whatever it takes to get to the top…and if it’s meant to be then it will happen.

Don’t be the guy who sits on top of the world and looks down on others because you are successful and everyone else is not…use your success because it’s a blessing not only for yourself, but also to reach out to others.

Being successful doesn’t just mean being wealthy…you can be successful and overcome an addiction…for example, an alcoholic can overcome their addiction, and then share their success story with others to help them overcome their addiction...

You can be successful in having a perfect family… there are many other families out there that aren’t successful and are struggling- you can guide them and show them how your family became successful…sometimes all a person or family needs it’s someone to show them the way.

Learn to give back…If you are blessed with success, talents and incredible abilities it’s your job to pass it on and pay it forward. Success is all about what type of person you become when everything is going good for you. Helping others will only make you richer! 

It is amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit. -- Harry S Truman

Day 87: "Sometimes you have to lose a battle to win the war."

Monday, March 28, 2011


Sometimes you have to lose everything you have ever earned in life in order to gain something worth having…

When you lose something, you end up gaining something. Whether it’s an important lesson in life, wisdom, maybe you will get closer with people…there is no losing in situations because there will always be something to gain, you just need to look at life this way in order to understand why "bad" things happen to you.

Nothing is bad. You might think its bad at the time, but, in the end you will figure out and realize why these things happen to you.

April 5th is getting closer- this year will be the 3rd anniversary since I was paralyzed…I used to have it all…legs for days, strong running legs, basketball legs, pole-vaulting legs, balanced legs that could dance for hours-in heels, quick reflexes…and it was all taken away from me…but I gained more than anyone could ever imagine…I gained passion for life, passion and empathy for others, happiness, strength…I know what’s important and what’s not...I feel like I have so much strength, happiness and love in me that I want to burst!I found myself, something that people will spend their whole life figuring out.I wish everyone could feel this way one day because it’s the biggest blessing.

When the economy went to crap, so many people had marriage problems all because of money…some marriages failed because people didn’t marry for love they married the money…and some marriages bloomed because the struggles couples faced made them so much closer, trying everything in their power to make it work. You lose the money but you gain memories and so much more love and respect for each other simply because you are sticking together and making it work.

Sometimes you have to lose the bad friends in order to gain the good friends, sometimes you have to lose the jerk your dating to find the good guy…there are so many situations that you feel like you’re losing out on but in reality after losing a new door opens and you never know…there could be something even better out there.

For all the boyfriends I cried over…I just laugh now because I realize why it didn’t work out. There is ALWAYS an upgrade available you just have to put the effort in and find it, or it might just show up on your doorstep when you least expect it.

Some people lose wealth and trade their life in for a negative addiction. This is the wrong path. Many take this path and it’s very sad. The weak that don’t see out of the box go down… nobody said fighting temptation was easy. It takes a strong person to take the good path…you might lose everything, but it’s your job to have faith and do anything you can to pick yourself up and make a new life. The best lessons are learned when you hit rock bottom and start over. Trust me, I have been there and it was a rough journey but in the end it made me wiser and stronger…I have gained more than I lost-and that is the truth. 


Day 86: "It is not what we take up, but what we give up, that makes us rich"

Sunday, March 27, 2011

He who would accomplish little need sacrifice little; he who would achieve much must sacrifice much. He who would attain highly must sacrifice greatly. 
~ James Allen

I usually write my blogs first thing in the morning but I am glad I waited until after church to write this because there was a really great inspiring message…


Sometimes you have to compromise and sacrifice things in life in order to have a better future.

If you want to settle for something average, something mediocre you don’t to sacrifice much to get there but the person who aims high and wants to achieve something big must sacrifice much much more to be where he/she wants to be.

In many cases the biggest things in life are not given to you on a silver platter.

Sacrifice is held to be among the greatest of virtues, simply because the beneficiaries of the sacrifice are others and the loser is self. 
~ Linda and Morris Tannehill

If you want to be a doctor you have to sacrifice 6+ years to receive a good education...that is a lot to sacrifice in a life time and not many people wish to be in school for that long but in the end a Doctor makes great money and helps people feel better- well that’s what they aim for, I would hope.

When people have babies they must sacrifice their life for the new born. Sometimes money gets tighter because there is now another human involved and you might not be able to spend as much money on yourself 

When people get caught up with that which is right and they are willing to sacrifice for it, there is no stopping point short of victory. ~ Martin Luther King Jr

Life is all about taking risks and sacrifice. You can’t expect to have it all in one day. You have to work hard and make sacrifices in order for you to get where you want to be. Life isn’t easy—there is no easy button… I think we all know that. 

So if you think your life is hard, think about other people in this world that had to sacrifice so much to get where they are…for example, famous people are rich and they might “have it all” but they pay the price of sacrificing their privacy for it—I’m not sure about you but I know I wouldn’t want the details of my relationships in gossip magazines and people criticizing me on how I look without make up on or 
what I wore to Starbucks! 

We all need to sacrifice things in life before we get what we want. So don't think you are the only one struggling and sacrificing things to get where you want to be. We all have to do it!  

Self-sacrifice is the real miracle out of which all the reported miracles grow. 
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Day 85: "Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."

Saturday, March 26, 2011

Dare to be different.

Many of us hold back who we truly are because we are trying to meet other people’s expectations…maybe  it’s a relationship—so many girls and guys change their ways and personalities just for others to notice them or they change their looks because they think that’s what the person wants…

Many of us spend our time thinking about how we can change ourselves for someone else. Why?

Almost every man wastes part of his life in attempts to display qualities which he does not possess, and to gain applause which he cannot keep.  ~Samuel Johnson

Stop living someone else’s life. Be you.

There really is no one to impress in this world. Ladies, if the guy you like doesn’t like you because your hair is brown – obviously they don’t deserve you, they are shallow! EW! You don’t even want that!

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.  ~Judy Garland

Funny story- when I was 17 I was in a “serious” puppy love relationship…when I met the guy I had bleach blonde hair… a few months later I dyed my hair brown and the moment I walked into his house he was in shock and said "OMG NOOO EW BROWN!" I spent the next hour in the shower trying to shampoo and scrub my head to lighten the brown! A couple days later I went back to the salon to get blonde highlights again…looking back I relize that I was such an idiot for changing my looks back to blonde just because I didn’t want my boyfriend to be upset. He also regrets making me wash my hair color out and we laugh about it to this day!

You don’t need to change anything for a person…if someone truly loves you/likes you they will like you for who you are, and how big your heart is… not how you look like.

Chemistry and personality is the key to a solid relationship. If those things don’t mesh then you are out of luck.

The biggest mistake you can do during your lifetime is to waste your time trying to live someone else’s life. It’s an energy wasting and unhealthy lifestyle.

Live for you and pretend no one is watching. The things you do when no one is watching is what makes you--you.


There is just one life for each of us:  our own.  ~Euripides

Day 84: "Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses."

Friday, March 25, 2011

OK so, this picture has NOTHING to do with today's blog...but it looks delicious &
 I wish someone would bring me breakfast in bed!...mmm :)

It  really  bugs  me  when  people  blame  others  for  what they  have  become.  They  make  excuses  and  justify stupid  reasons  on  why  they  are  lacking  advancement in  life.  People  spend  more  time  thinking  and   making  up  excuses  rather  than  changing  their lives  for  the  better…

People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.-J. Michael Straczynski

We  should  all  take  our  own  life  seriously…by  this  I mean  take  100%  ownership  of  your  thoughts,  emotions, actions —your  state  of  mind.
Each  and  every  one  of  us  is  responsible  for  creating our  own  world,  our  own  environments  and surroundings.
Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you, never excuse yourself.-Henry Ward Beecher
Be  your  own  master.  Don’t  let  yourself  get  dragged behind  someone  else’s  path.  Stop  blaming  others  for your  dispositions  and  change  the  way  you  perceive  the  world  so you  can  be  in  control  of  your  own  life and  make  your  own  decisions.  

Nothing is impossible; there are ways that lead to everything, and if we had sufficient will we should always have sufficient means. It is often merely for an excuse that we say things are impossible. -Francois de la Rochefoucauld

it's friday...helloooo weekend! woo hoo!

Day 83: "If you give people nothingness, they can ponder what can be achieved from that nothingness."

Thursday, March 24, 2011

The idealists dream and the dream is told, and the practical men listen and ponder and bring back the truth and apply it to human life, and progress and growth and higher human ideals come into being and so the world moves ever on. -Anna Howard Shaw

It took a near death experience for me to realize what life is all about.

Pondering about life is what I do from the moment I wake up until the moment I lay my head down on my pillow at night.

It’s refreshing to ponder and contemplate about life. Putting every situation into various perspectives can help you solve problems faster. Life is supposed to be about pondering, you never know what’s going to happen tomorrow, in 5 minutes, in the next couple seconds…don’t take time for granted.

Take the time to wonder and ponder about the things that exist all around you. When driving look at the mountains, the scenery…lie down and watch the clouds go by, pause and watch the sunset…or sunrise…smell the air!

Take the time to realize how fast life is developing around you. Look at the people developing new technology, our world is advancing right in front of our eyes…and super fast! The people who are around you have used their personal power to create, design, and discover what was never there before. Makes me realize that everyone has the power within them to change and create whatever they want.

Pondering and observing all the wonderful things and not so wonderful things that life has to offer makes me have a sense of appreciation. We have more than enough resources around us to meet our needs and to create our own destinies. Sometimes people get lazy and completely disregard the resources around them and continue being robots--living their life "in the box" letting others advance instead of them.

There is always more out there for you. You can have whatever your heart desires but you can’t be lazy and expect it to show up on your door step on a silver platter.

Ponder and wonder, create and discover…and you can give the world anything you ever imagined… can...  

When in doubt, mumble; when in trouble, delegate; when in charge, ponder.

-James H. Boren

Day 82: “Life is either a great adventure or nothing."

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

“Life is either a great adventure or nothing." -Helen Keller

I have been craving a new adventure lately! I have to schedule a vacation before the year is over and I can’t figure out where I want to go! But I am craving either a cruise or a trip to somewhere exotic….


SO many people get caught up in their life routine…wake up, traffic, work work work, home, tv, eat, sleep, wake up work work work…they have lost that spark and excitement in life. They have lost that child like curiosity to explore and learn new things.These people have completely forgotten how fun it is to feel that fun adrenaline rush when taking risks and exploring the unknown.  

As we grow into routines we blindly become puppets on strings letting other people decide what direction we should go in. Personal growth stops, life becomes boring and repetitive and we start to think there is no more room for advancement.

It doesn’t matter how old you are, everyday is a new day. Every day is a new adventure. Every day is the beginning of a new journey that may or may not involve risks…but in order to try something new you just might have to risk something.

People are scared of taking risks because they are afraid of the unknown. But guess what people, in order to grow you must step outside of your comfort zone…if you don’t step out of your comfort zone you will be comfortably stuck in your old routine for the rest of your life…what a waste of a beautiful adventurous life!

Don’t focus on the negatives of taking risks…everyone that is successful has taken risks!

Be unique. Do you. If you feel like getting wild and dangerous- do it! (Well don’t do anything illegal)… Create your own adventure, have tons of fun and experience all the secret joys that have been waiting for you.

Turn your life around. Make it more exciting, get out of your old routine and old habits! Some of your greatest life moments are waiting for you right around the corner but it’s your job to discover them!

 Get involved & don’t let life pass you by because it will be over before you know it!

"A man practices the art of adventure when he breaks the chain of routine and renews his life through reading new books, traveling to new places, making new friends, taking up new hobbies and adopting new viewpoints."
- Wilfred Peterson

Day 81: "Gratitude is the best attitude."

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today.  Have you used one to say "thank you?"  ~William A. Ward

When we show gratitude we attract the good things in life.

If you appreciate everything you have, physically, mentally, materialistically and show gratitude for everything that comes your way, you will always be in a happy and positive emotional state. When you constantly repeat grateful and thankful thoughts, these emotions leave you in a wonderful peaceful place and have a great positive impact on your spiritual well being.

Sometimes things don’t go the way you want them to but there are plenty more reasons to feel blessed from the moment the sun rises until the sun sets. When you appreciate the in-between you will be loved and respected and attract more and more goodness to your life.

Yesterday I was driving to work and there was a huge accident on the I-17 and I was stuck in a standstill for an HOUR! 3 lanes were blocked and I was running late for work. At first I freaked out because it’s only my second week at work and I didn’t want to look bad…I was angry because this traffic jam was making me run late…as I continued to sit there I started to feel guilty for being upset…then I started to think about the people who could have got hurt in the accident, were they going to work? Are they going to be able to afford to fix the car? Were they running late? Are they okay? And my mind set started to change…I was grateful that I was okay, I was grateful that my car didn’t get hit, I was grateful that unlike those who were in the accident I was still going to continue with my day with no car problems and pains, I was grateful that I could be stuck in traffic because there are many people out there who can’t afford cars or cannot afford to drive places. It’s crazy how an hour stuck in traffic can really help you put things into perspective. I am grateful for this traffic jam! I ended up being late along with about 5 other people…we were all stuck and there is just nothing we could do about it…you can’t control traffic that’s for sure!

If a fellow isn't thankful for what he's got, he isn't likely to be thankful for what he's going to get.  ~Frank A. Clark

To be grateful you need to start looking for the best things in every situation. Some of us are fortunate some days and others they are not. REMEMBER everything is temporary, life is always changing, the Earth is always moving, appreciate and be grateful for everything that comes your way. Don’t ever discourage yourself with negative sayings, thoughts and always think about the things that have helped you experience the best days in life. 

Praise the bridge that carried you over.  ~George Colman

Day 80: “Integrity is doing the right thing, even if nobody is watching.”

Monday, March 21, 2011

and I love this song...

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anyhoo on to todays inspiration...


Integrity is the essence of everything successful.
-Richard Buckminster Fuller

If you live your life with integrity, happiness will creep into every single crevice of your life. You will start living in bliss. Do everything that brings you joy and avoid things and people that bring you down.

Integrity is the characteristic in your soul that distinguishes a feature of your character. People who have this wonderful attribute are honest, trustworthy, reliable, and sincere…and treat everything and everyone fairly.

A person with a soul full of integrity lets them keep their promises because they hold moral principles that make them reliable and consistent. This person is a leader. People look up to him/her and trust their judgments, listen to their advice and accept their opinions.

People of integrity are credible because you can trust them and they will not make any false promises.

So many relationships and friendships deteriorate, fail and fall apart because people lose credibility and make tons of false promises causing relationships crumble into pieces. Making false promises, telling people you will do something then never go through with what you said ruins relationships. This is false hope…in other words…HEARTBREAK.  

You can spend a long time trying to fool people and win them over by making false promises but once people see the real you come out of your fake shell you will lose your integrity…and most of the time you will lose out on a relationship with someone- whether its business, family, friends, boyfriends/girlfriends, marriage. Don’t be THAT guy.

Start living with integrity today! Live is too short to give false hope and false promises be the good person God made you to be! 


Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.
-W. Clement Stone

Day 79: Relax & do some Bubble bathin'!

Sunday, March 20, 2011

It’s a beautiful Sunday…the weather is perfect so take this day to relax!

You might be anxious because the new week is starting tomorrow…why not treat yourself to a warm bubble bath?

Warm bubble baths help relax tensed nerves, they help relieve sore muscles and also make you feel extra cozy.

This is how I prepare my bubble baths, you should try it too!
  1. Make sure you have clean fluffy towels prepared and sitting next to your bath tub- sometimes I like to throw them in the dryer to warm them up a bit and make them extra fluffy.
  2. Start pouring the water…make sure the water is not too hot or you won’t be able to relax because you will be too busy saying “ouch”.
  3. While the water is pouring, light some aromatherapy candles, or tea light candles just to get a relaxing glow and atmosphere going.
  4. If you have a stereo AWAY from the bathtub, pick your favorite relaxing tunes and press play.
  5. There are a variety of products that I love to use during my soaking…my personal favorite is 1 cup of Epson salt- this helps relax my sore muscles…you can also use essential oils, bath gels, bubble bath, scented bath bombs, lavender oil or aromatherapy bath salts…so put something that you like in the tub while the water is running.
  6. Once the tub is full enough for you to get in, BE CAREFUL because it will be slippery, and ease yourself into the warm bubbly tub.
  7. Soak in the tub for 20-30 minutes… I've noticed when I stay in longer then 30 mins my skin gets dry, and wrinkled up…the relaxation time is all up to you.
  8. When it’s time to get out of the again BE CAREFUL, you don’t want to slip and fall so make sure you have a bath rug to step on and a fluffy towel at arms reach.
  9. Once you are dried off, finish the experience by rubbing body lotion all over…I try to use moisturizer lotions with natural ingredients and tons of vitamins.
  10. Once you are all lathered up and in your comfortable clothes or soft robe keep the relaxation vibe going and help yourself to a warm cup of tea then go to sleep, or read or watch your favorite movie.

Extra tubbin’ Tips:

-Ladies or sometimes gentlemen if your hair is long put it in a hair clip on top of your head…wet hair starts to make you feel cold once you have been soaking for a while.

- You can put cold slices of cucumbers on your eyes or a face mask on… this will also help you relax.

-If you are of age, drink a glass of wine while in the tub, wine is super relaxing and the anti oxidants in red wine are good for your heart.

-If your neck is uncomfortable, roll up a towel and make a bubble bath neck pillow.

- I personally like to take a shower right after I finish my bath tub because I feel like I have been soaking in dirty water…I also have OCD! Haha whatever floats your boat!