Day 59: "Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching?"

Monday, February 28, 2011

Happy Monday!

Why does everyone hate Mondays so much? I think we have made it a self-fulfilling prophecy that Mondays suck. You wake up on Monday and you say it’s going to suck because it’s Monday and at the end of your day you say yep it did suck…but, you are the one who woke up with the bad attitude about it, so maybe your self-fulfilling prophecy about Monday took over a good day without you even realizing it.

So… next Monday try waking up and say it’s going to be an awesome Monday with a great attitude and see if your Monday turns out to be a better day. It’s all about attitude; if you have a good one then your day might just be better.

If you are grateful for what every day brings and thankful for everything that happens to you during the day then you are one step closer to achieving and also accomplishing something that is better than your present situation, and also bigger than your current situation.

Have an attitude full of gratitude and take nothing for granted.

There are no promises in life. All you can do is have faith that today will be a great day. Make the most out of today no matter where you are; make the best out of your situation for the sake of only living today once.  

“I take nothing for granted. I now have only good days, or great days.”
-Lance Armstrong

Day 58: "And when it rains on your parade, look up rather than down. Without the rain, there would be no rainbow."

Sunday, February 27, 2011

Sunshine is delicious, rain is refreshing, wind braces us up, snow is exhilarating; there is really no such thing as bad weather, only different kinds of good weather.  ~John Ruskin

I listened to rain all last night! I love the rain, especially when it rains in Arizona. I walk slow, so when I don’t have an umbrella I soak up every little rain drop. Everyone else runs for cover but I get drenched and laugh about it when I finally get in my car or inside. Then I laugh even harder when I look in the mirror and realize I look like a drowned rat. It barley ever rains in Arizona, so why not soak up those rain drops while you have the chance.  

Anyone who says sunshine brings happiness has never danced in the rain.  ~Author Unknown

Rain reminds me of magic. It starts to sprinkle then it starts to pour. You never know when it will stop, it’s like heaven is playing a game with people on Earth. Watching people scram through the rain, watching traffic get intense, watching girls cry because their hair gets wet… I bet the angels in heaven bust out the popcorn and laugh about how frantic and silly we all look down here, especially the people shopping at Costco during the rain…have you ever seen Costco shoppers in the rain? It’s free entertainment! Trying to pull their cars up as close as possible so they can load up their 100 rolls of toilet paper and other family super sized stuff- beyond comical! It’s just rain, why do some of us get so crazy?!

On the other hand, the rain can bring sadness. On Thursday my ex-boyfriend’s sister/ good friend of mine- Carly, let me know that her Aunt Tami passed away from cancer. Aunt Tami was a fun and loving lady leaving behind her husband Barry and lots of family and friends that love her. Someone once told me that if it rains after a person passes it means that the person who passed has now been granted their set of angel wings. I like to think Tami is now a guardian angel for her husband Barry and the rest of the family.    Everyone loves you Tami, you will be in our prayers and missed dearly.

Ever felt an angel's breath in the gentle breeze?  A teardrop in the falling rain?  Hear a whisper amongst the rustle of leaves?  Or been kissed by a lone snowflake?  Nature is an angel's favorite hiding place.  ~Carrie Latet

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Rain is magical just like a reset button. Whether it brings happiness or sadness it washes away worries and problems. After the rain there is always a rainbow somewhere, everything is beautiful once again and life smells crisp and clean. Clouds start to clear out and it feels as though a new day has come. Life has been refreshed, renewed and the birds come out and sing a new tune.  Enjoy the rain while it’s here for tomorrow it will probably be gone and it won’t come back until life needs to hit the reset button once again.

Rainbows apologize for angry skies.  ~Sylvia Voirol

Ah rain reminds me of this romantic scene in The Notebook! My favorite movie of all time, I will probably get blankets, popcorn, snuggle up and watch this movie today. Perfect cozy, lovey dovey and cute movie for any rainy day, I highly recommend it! 



Day 57: "Don't live down to expectations. Go out there and do something remarkable."

Saturday, February 26, 2011

"Do not try to live 'up to a standard' rather 'be the standard'. Living up to a standard is living up to the expectation of others. But to be the standard is being the very best of who you are."

I think we are all born with something special in us. Everyone has something in them that makes them stand out, some kind of a talent. After talent is discovered expectations can be placed upon us. Expectations can be set by your boss, parents, mentors, family members, friends or maybe yourself.

People think that they have to live up to other people’s expectations when it comes to fulfilling a talent or dream. I see so many parents pressure their kids into doing something that they clearly do not want to do. Maybe you always wanted to break dance because you love dancing, but your parents want you to play the trumpet and force you into it, leaving your passion of break dancing in the dust. It’s sad to see because a child has no choice when their parent tells them to do something they don’t want to do. Kids have to do what their parents say because they don’t know any better, they don’t want to disappoint their parents or they don't want to get punished.

When parent’s put so much pressure on their children to do something that the child doesn’t want to do, they are missing out on witnessing what the child is naturally gifted with. The child doesn’t get the chance to discover what they like and what they are good at on their own and that is selfish of the parents and truly sad to see.

Life is short and we should never life up to anyone’s expectations. We should make our own standards and be the best we can be. Passion comes from within, not from someone telling you what you should be passionate about. I know children have no other choice but to listen to their parents but once you hit an age where you are clearly capable of making decisions for yourself you should set your own standards and stop following other people’s expectations blindly. Talents are to be discovered on your own through exploring and experimenting, don’t let other people’s standards and expectations get in the way of your dreams!

Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you.
~Henry Ward Beecher

Day 56: “Some people change when they see the light, others when they feel the heat”

Friday, February 25, 2011

There are many people out there that I would love to change. Change their lives, attitudes, ways ect.  But I have learned by trying to help other people break their habits or attitudes it will not work because, in order for a person to change, they are the ones who should want to change themselves first.

It is not your responsibility to change people. People are who they are because they want to be that way. Looking back at people I tried or wanted to change it was a wasted effort. They are still the same people they were back when I knew them years ago. It’s disappointing putting all your effort into helping others change their bad habits when in the end you lose because they end up staying the same. Disappointments like this generate unhappiness because we realize we wasted so much energy into something we could not change.  

Hands down, we do not have any control over other people. You cannot change other people’s behavior. It’s not up to you how people live their lives; it’s up to you how you live your own. It’s hard when you see a close friend of family member struggle with issues and if you try to help, it doesn’t work, it’s definitely upsetting and hard on people/ families. But, when we realize that we are incapable of changing others we can make 2 decisions. Either let it go, and let people learn the hard way through their own mistakes OR you can gather a few close people for an intervention! But don’t gather people to gang up on the person, gather people and make a good plan to influence the person to change. It could work or it could fail, but at least you know you tried.

I believe life starts with you. Have control over your own attitude. Have control over your own thoughts. And if your goal is to change the world one day, the first place to start is with yourself. If you become something extraordinary and inspiringly influential in whatever you do, you can become a role model to others. Good people influence others to be good and that’s all the world needs.

You must be the change you wish to see in the world.
-Mahatma Gandhi

Day: 55: “Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless.”

Thursday, February 24, 2011

All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.

-Brian Tracy

Everything we experience starts with the power that lies within our minds. As humans we have total control over our thoughts and we can use our mind to make our circumstances better. Some of us forget to think out of the box. When we limit our thinking we limit ourselves from being the greatest we can be.

I use my imagination all the time. I sit in la la land for minute’s maybe hours to think of things that I can come up with to do well in life, or think of activities I would love to do in my lifetime and think how can I get there. When I create visuals in my mind I get excited because I can see myself achieving something that I want. Imagining a better life will give you a better life.

Think about Albert Einstein. He thought out of the box, people thought he was crazy, but, look how much his creative imagination changed his life and also the whole world. You don’t have to be Albert Einstein to change the world you can still be yourself just use your imagination. When we imagine things, we are most likely not imagining the same thing as the person next to us. So use your imagination to come up with ideas and peruse them because most likely you will create something different in the world.

The day I was paralyzed I started to believe that anything is possible if you can imagine it. I formed a mental picture in my mind, I used positive affirmations to keep me going, and all I did was visualize, draw pictures of nerves growing ect. I thought out of the box constantly and envisioned a wonderful outcome.

This is a picture I drew in my journal in 2009...the lines I drew on the legs are nerves... and all around the page I wrote what I envision myself doing in the next couple of years...

Power of the mind… I think our minds work to give us what we think whether it’s a good intention or a bad intention. When we believe something so much and think about it all the time it will happen, but you just can’t doubt it in your mind because that takes you two steps back.

Decide what you want, whether it’s now, tomorrow, next year. First you have to envision it (don’t think of how you will get there just yet) and only envision it. Create your goal using your imagination, the more vivid picture in your mind the better. Be meticulous and think of the most dramatic images you can think of and don’t forget see yourself in your imagination. 

Create possibilities because everything is possible. Your thoughts are limitless and no one can stop your imagination. And if you are more of a visual person, and you have to see it in front of your face, make a visual board. Those are fun!

Be emotional and visualize whatever you are imagining. When you think of your goal, feel it, get happy about it, and get excited about it. Visualize it daily! Add all the positive thoughts you can to it and then your life will move in the direction of your goal.

I think the most important thing for making your imagination come to life is believing in yourself and believing that the things you imagine can and will come true if you act on it. Life is all about faith and believing you can achieve anything you put your mind to. If you believe it, you can achieve it, and have whatever you want. I think everyone is capable of attracting everything they believe in. 

I believe that every lottery scratcher I buy is a winner… and I keep on winning… I never doubt myself when purchasing and if I do I won’t get it that day! Maybe that’s a bad example because the lottery is “luck” but hey believing I am a winner is working so far so good for me.

I have a book where I write down my thoughts, dreams and ideas I think this is another way you can program your imagination and it’s really interesting to look back at your first thoughts and see if you still want those thoughts to come true. If we write things down it will help us imagine them, and bring them to life. Writing things down, then reading them will help you visualize and feel what can happen in your future. Do it!  

Everything that is new or uncommon raises a pleasure in the imagination, because it fills the soul with an agreeable surprise, gratifies its curiosity, and gives it an idea of which it was not before possessed.
-Joseph Addison

I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living, it's a way of looking at life through the wrong end of a telescope. Which is what I do, and that enables you to laugh at life's realities.
-Dr. Seuss

Day 54: "How strange to use "You only live once" as an excuse to throw it away"

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

How strange to use "You only live once" as an excuse to throw it away
 ~Bill Copeland
We live one life and some of us choose to live it to the fullest and do anything whether it’s good or wreck less. Life is all about experimenting with new things to determine our personal belief systems. We experiment to find out who we are and we learn lots of lessons through the mistakes or opportunities that experimenting has to offer.

Some people think in order to find themselves they should experiment with drugs and alcohol. It’s one thing to try it once in moderation but when once people get caught up in that scene it’s hard to turn back to reality. Bad habits are tough to break, to the point where only extreme counseling or rehab is an option to get rid of the addictions.

Today, drugs and alcohol are socially acceptable. These substances provide us with an escape from reality, they let us relax, and also “help” temporarily relieve/numb any problems we may be facing in our lives. I understand life is about having fun and enjoying time with your friends, having a few drinks, laughing, goofing around and making memories but when it’s to the point where you drink so much and cause a scene, fight, black out, get angry, do things you wouldn’t do if you were sober, what’s the point? That’s not living that’s taking advantage of the life God gave you in a negative way.

My biggest pet peeve is when people act stupid when they are drunk, get angry and start fights with innocent people, then the next day they dare to blame their actions on the alcohol they consumed. Yesterday, I blogged about excuses…well using alcohol as an excuse for your actions is not okay. You are the one choosing to drink, you are the one ordering more drinks, you made all the decisions for yourself to consume (weather conscious, or impaired) the alcohol altered your mindset and you chose to hit someone or start an argument. Take responsibility for your actions, it’s not the alcohol because YOU are the one who chose to put it into your own system and if you cannot handle it then stop drinking it all together. I’ve seen too many people get hurt because they cannot control their alcohol consumption and at the end of the day it’s just a sad pointless life people live.

You do only live once. Choose to live life in a positive way; don’t throw it away with mind altering substances. Isn’t it funny when you hear people say “you only live once” after they make the decision to do something “bad.” When was the last time you heard someone say “Let’s feed all the homeless in the park! Why not! You only live once.” 

I think lots of us have forgotten how precious life is and throw it away with negative temptations. Life is worth living to the fullest, but with good! Bad only destroys you, substances destroy you. The only reasons there are substances available on the planet is so the weak and strong can be divided. The weak fall into drugs, the strong live without them. If God put substances on this earth for us to have a good time, he wouldn’t have made those substances to hurt you, to ruin relationships, to destroy your body. I think substances are okay for medical reasons to alleviate pain naturally but when people abuse substances for no reason it ruins the point. Substances are no good, and that’s why if you don't them in moderation the consequences are always negative. Think about it. 

Don’t throw your life away. Life is worth living to the fullest in a positive way. This life is the only one you have. It’s real and you should live everyday to your full potential. Do well, be good and good will always come back to you in ways you couldn’t even imagine. 

“This is my wish for you: Comfort on difficult days, smiles when sadness intrudes, rainbows to follow the clouds, laughter to kiss your lips, sunsets to warm your heart, hugs when spirits sag, beauty for your eyes to see, friendships to brighten your being, faith so that you can believe, confidence for when you doubt, courage to know yourself, patience to accept the truth, Love to complete your life.”

Day 53: "Don't do what you'll have to find an excuse for."

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own.  No apologies or excuses.  No one to lean on, rely on, or blame.  The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.  This is the day your life really begins.  ~Bob Moawad

Excuses. We all make them. Whether it’s blaming someone else for something you did wrong or not showing up somewhere when you said you would be there, excuses can be made up just like lies. There are many situations that we encounter in our lives that either we DID something that we WEREN’T supposed to or DIDN’T do something that we WERE supposed to do…then when we get questioned about our wrongdoing, and, to cover our butts we make up excuses for our mistakes.

Excuses are the tools with which persons with no purpose in view build for themselves great monuments of nothing.  ~Steven Grayhm

Excuses contradict responsibility. Take responsibility for your failures, this will make you an honest and courageous person instead of looking like a coward using a scapegoat in attempts to make yourself look like an innocent person. We are responsible for where we are in life and what we have in our life. We are not responsible for where we come from, (maybe a broken home or a poor family) but, we are responsible for what we could become and our future.

Everyone wants to be successful in what they choose to do. Once we get to the top we want to show the world how awesome we are, we take all the credit for our success and those who get to the top with taking responsibility for their failures are the ones we can learn from. We not perfect, we are human.

No one ever excused his way to success.  ~Dave Del Dotto

Excuses prevent you from succeeding and perusing your dreams. You might say “I can’t do that because I have to do this” or “I can’t start that because I have to do this” or “He told me I can’t so I won’t”  (ect.) These are all excuses and when we continuously make up excuses they get imprinted in our brains and become self-fulfilling prophecies. For example, when I was in the hospital I was told I would never walk again. I could have used that statement as an excuse to not try and move my toes but I didn’t act on the excuse that doctors told me. I believed I can do whatever I want to do and that no excuse will get in the way of achieving my dream of walking again. A wheel chair was an excuse for not walking, and I did not like the wheel chair at all. So I set aside all excuses that I was tired, or on pain killers, or weak I just trained myself to keep perusing my dream without throwing excuses about why I cannot walk. And boo ya! I started to walk in 3 months. No excuses.

I respect honest people and I believe as humans we need to take responsibility and embrace all the things we do. Be confident, if you lose the excuses, you will gain respect from not only yourself but others. Take pride in what you do in life and don’t make excuses if you fail. Failure only teaches you lessons and makes you a better person.

Don't make excuses - make good.  ~Elbert Hubbard

When people see that you take responsibility for your good or bad actions they start to trust you because whether you messed up or did something great you tell the truth in any circumstance. That type of person is rare. When people see that they can trust you, they want to work with you even more. This helps you and it can help other people get what they want also.

He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.  ~Benjamin Franklin

When working by yourself or with others you realize that you are the only person that can succeed or fail. Find a way to whatever it is that you want, don’t find an excuse. And when you get to the point where you make a mistake just accept responsibility for it. Don’t drag others into your problems, just accept that it happened and you will work to get out of it and make it better. Learn from your mistakes and don’t repeat them. Some people spend more time and energy making up excuses, don’t do that! Put your time and energy into inventing and discovering solutions. 

Excuses pump the breaks on our development. Accepting responsibility for our mistakes and failures is the only way we will get to the top. If you want something bad enough you will throw all your excuses out the window. Excuses are wastes of time and major setbacks.

Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure.  ~Don Wilder and Bill Rechin

Excuses will NEVER matter. Nobody cares to listen to your excuses. It’s 100% up to you what kind of life you want to live, you are only hurting yourself if you throw excuses at people.

Day 52: "Do not be discouraged if your plans do not succeed the first time. No one learns to walk by taking only one step."

Monday, February 21, 2011

Every great work, every big accomplishment, has been brought into manifestation through holding to the vision, and often just before the big achievement, comes apparent failure and discouragement. ~Florence Scovel Shinn
It’s very easy to get discouraged. Sometimes you feel like you try so hard to accomplish something but during your journey to accomplishment you might start to feel down because you don’t think you are getting where you want to be in the amount of time you gave yourself.
It’s easy to look at your life and get down about the things that aren’t going your way. I remember I set a goal in rehab about a year and a half ago and I told myself that on my college graduation day I would be walking across the stage in gold high heels. It never happened, I was mildly upset, discouraged, and I felt disappointed in myself for not reaching my goal in time. But, in the long run, I already had come so far since I was paralyzed. I really have nothing to be upset and discouraged about. It’s very easy to slip into the motion of thinking about how far you still have to go, instead of looking at how far you have already come.  
No matter what you are trying to accomplish it’s easy to sit there and compare yourself to the big dogs, the people who have already accomplished what you are trying to do. You just have to remember they probably went through the same steps as you did. There was discouragement, disappointment and obstacles but they managed to fight their fight and they ended up getting what they wanted in life.
Don’t be discouraged! Accomplishing something is all about the ride. You have to keep yourself excited and motivated. Don’t stress that you aren’t at your goal, relax and enjoy the ride because in the end when you accomplish what you have dreamed you will look back and realize the ride on the way to the top is what made everything worth it.

Don’t rush things in life because you think “time is running out.” Everything falls into place when the time is right. We put too much pressure on ourselves about time and also about age. Remind yourself that there is no rush and realize that the only place that pressure comes from is from you.

In spite of everything I shall rise again: I will take up my pencil, which I have forsaken in my great discouragement, and I will go on with my drawing.
~Vincent Van Gogh


Day 51: "Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up"

Sunday, February 20, 2011

The kind of marriage you make depends upon the kind of person you are. If you are a happy, well-adjusted person, the chances are your marriage will be a happy one. If you have made adjustments so far with more satisfaction than distress, you are likely to make your marriage and family adjustments satisfactorily. If you are discontented and bitter about your lot in life, you will have to change before you can expect to live happily ever after. 
~Evelyn Duvall and Reuben Hill

For the longest time I have always wondered why people fall in love at such a young age and rush into marriage. I never understood why people couldn’t just wait their “love” out a couple of years…until they are in their late 20’s, then, proceed with a wedding. I used to think people that get married at such a young age are stupid…

But how can love be stupid? We don’t know how other couples feel in their relationship and who are we to judge if marriage is a good or bad idea for them. Everyone has a different experience in a relationship, our personal relationship experiences will never be the same as anyone else's...maybe similar but never the same. 

I have never been in love before. But I have sincerely and deeply cared about people I’ve seen in the past.  You meet someone. You spend time getting to know each other.  You become attached to each other. You miss them the second you step away. You find yourself intrigued by everything they do. You start recognizing and remembering the food they like, favorite colors, type of music, type of movies ect. You start to notice the clothes they favor the most in their closet. As more time goes by you discover their flaws, but, their flaws make you like them even more or you just like them so much you can deal with the flaws. You notice their certain talents and give them praise. You strive and want to learn more and more about each other every day.

As more time goes by, you absorb every detail of each other and one day you admit what your subconscious has been telling you all along… you love the person. You love their strengths and also their weaknesses. You make each other secure. You both bring warmth into the relationship. You both are simply happy. Happy in each other’s company. Happy and missing each other when you’re apart.

All the above is rare and hard to find. Some people say it’s all a fairy tale. I don’t think so. Love is real but you have to work for it, put effort and faith into something. Love isn’t given to you on a silver platter. I think people expect it to just appear right in front of them. It might… maybe you will experience "love at first sight." But, I have heard so many stories where it took time for a person to grow on another to really fall in love with them. So many people who are married say “this was the last type of person I ever planned/ expected to marry!”

What I am trying to get at here is I am sick of people saying love is stupid, of getting married at a young age is dumb ect. To each their own, if someone wants to get married let them, don’t hate.
Couples that make each other happy share a rare and powerful thing, especially in today’s world. I think if people are blessed enough to make each other so happy they should indeed take the next step…

Falling in love is not dumb. Having the ability to show your love for someone is inspiring and refreshing. I think a man who is capable of "popping the question" at a young age, in fact, at whatever age is incredibly courageous and brave. If you love someone so much and you can commit to them for the REST of your life then go for it. Giving your love to another person takes courage, and a massive amount of trust, and if you feel like you can trust a person with your heart then why not give it to them along with a ring to symbolize it.

The more you invest in a marriagee, the more valuable it becomes. 
~Amy Grant

People who get married are brave and courageous. You only live once so why not wear your heart on your sleeve and quit playing games. If boys and girls were honest no time would be wasted in the relationship department. The unknown is scary and that’s why people cannot commit to marriage. I admire married people…they are brave and strong enough to want to make something work.

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. ~Mignon McLaughlin

Ok. Maybe I have been watching too many romance comedies these past few weeks but that doesn’t change a thing! Love is a beautiful thing and I wish for everyone to experience it. I heard about so many people getting engaged this week due to Valentine's Day week and it's great, good for those couples! Love makes the world go round, don't hate on that!

Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry. 
~Tom Mullen

The secret to having a good marriage is to understand that marriage must be total, it must be permanent and it must be equal. 
~Frank Pittman

Love is no assignment for cowards. ~Ovid

Marriage is more than finding the right person. It is being the right person. ~Unknown

Day 50: "People Will Forget What You Said, People Will Forget What You Did, but People Will Never Forget How You Made Them Feel"

Saturday, February 19, 2011

The words you speak stick with people, whether you say something nice or say something mean. People might not remember the exact words you say but they will remember how you made them feel, forever.

Before you say something to someone, better yet in this day and age before you text something to someone, think of your word as if it were a knife. If you say something negative/hurtful to someone your word will stab them. You cannot take the wound away and there will be a scar left behind forever.

I feel like sometimes I dwell on the negative things people say, and those words and nasty comments repeat in my head over and over. It’s like negative words come with super glue and stick with you forever and when someone says something nice to complement you it’s more like a sticky note…it sticks with you for a while then it falls off and you forget about it.

The saying “People will never forget how you made them feel” doesn’t always apply to the negative things people say, but also the positive. People can make you feel good about yourself, and give you that extra bit of confidence that you need. Encouraging people with positive words can turn someone’s day around and make people feel good for the rest of the day. Positive words of encouragement should be used all the time, the nicer you are to others the better everyone will feel about themselves. Positive compliments and comments to people can make any environment better because then everyone will be in a good mood.  

People may say some nasty things to you out of spite because they are jealous of you, afraid that you will get ahead before them, or simply because they want to purposely make you feel like crap. Sometimes positive affirmations keep us going and help us overcome those comments that have left scars. But, hearing a positive comment from someone else is usually more uplifting and I believe that affect lasts longer on us.

If you give others positive feedback and words of encouragement then you will see that others will reciprocate. Life is more fulfilling when you are genuine and can give praise to others. It’s easy to sit back and say nothing when someone achieves something great, but telling someone they did a great job takes little effort and one day when you do something great you will receive praise in return too. 

“Really great people make you feel that you, too, can become great.”

~ Mark Twain